Counseling Success Gleaned from Disaster!

My DH and I had one last session with our female counselor.  The forthrightness I so admired in the first few sessions now seemed rather overbearing and ‘in-your-face’.  She was actually insulting toward me!  When I was trying to answer her questions, she would interrupt me and say,’You can’t say that!’ She said you don’t get to come in here and tell me what is wrong with your DH and tell me to fix him. 

Actually, what we were both seeking was a clear diagnosis and then a treatment plan.  The counselor said she wanted to treat this as a ‘marriage counseling’ session and we would ‘partner’ to solve our relationship conflicts.  The only problem is, we had been to Couples Counseling and had actually learned a tremendous amount of very useful information; especially information on how to communicate efficiently and respectfully… and BOTH of us knew that there were other OCPD issues that we needed help on identifying and dealing with them.  Ugh!  She got extremely sarcastic (if you can imagine a counselor doing that) and I just lost it.  I started to cry and we left the session.  

I called the director of Mental Health services for my healthcare HMO and put in a complaint.  They called back and interviewed both my husband and me.

We finally found another counselor who was suggested by this director… who was a fantastic, caring, knowledgeable individual who helped us tremendously!!!!  We have been working on our issues successfully for about a year.

I’ve been very happy!  My DH and I had worked really hard: we compromised, understood each other, relayed what we each needed in any given situation… 

It all was going really well, with only minor bumps that were smoothed-out relatively painlessly…. until NOW.  ;-(